posted by Bretch Synco on Feb 27
I don’t know many couples who love each other the same. There’s always someone who loves the other more. Given this case, what do you think is better? Man to love the woman more or woman to love the man more? And why?
Tags: love
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
The woman to love the man more. If the man loves more he comes over as effeminated and weak which is a turn down to many women.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
She should love me more.
I’m not sure why. I just think it would be better for the relationship.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
Compatibility in giving and celebrating love is far more important than who gives and takes more. It should ebb and flow from both the parties involved, otherwise the giver is prone to getting sick and tired of giving all the time.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
Man to love a woman because if he really loves her then it would not only make her feel good and confident about herself but it also shows he Truly respects her and cars about her. Also some girls need the extra boost of confidence so having the man love her more might make her feel special
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
I think either way, it’ll end badly. Love should be equal.
Though thats rare…
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
I think that a healthy relationship has the same level of love between partners, just different ways of showing their love.
Women: more affectionate, take care of the home, the children, etc…
Men: Check the oil, check the air in your tires, buys practical gifts…hoping to make your life easier; check the batteries in smoke alarms, etc…
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
It should be equal. The people you know don’t seem to be very mature if that is how they feel about each other. I say that because it takes more than one person to make a excellent relationship. Requiring only one partner to do the most work is draining and they will eventually move on.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
Both people should love to their fullest ability. You can’t make a person love more relative to someone else if both people are giving 100 percent.
Also, there are many ways to show love and they can be very subtle and borderline invisible.
My grandma lost a leg due to diabetes. My grandpa was never the most outgoing and affectionate person. But, he stood by his wife and took care of her. That’s huge love to me. So what if he wasn’t freely saying I Love You day in and day out. Sometimes it is what you do not what you say.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
I can only speak as who I am. A Married woman. When in marriage and when you find the person you will marry, there isn’t and shouldn’t be any games of who loves more or who loves less. When in such a loving and committed relationship and you both are each others worlds then you know when you are ready for marriage. It has to be equally yoked so to speak. Anything less is games and young love. If you’re after a serious relationship then no games. If it’s just dating and feeling are not involved then have fun. But, true love is just what it is, true love.
You haven’t stated your age but if you were my child I’d say stay out of a relationship where there are that kind of games going on. There really are good people in this world, really good people, don’t settle in a relationship!
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
I don’t think it is better but I do think that it is inevitable that the amount of love passing between two people in a committed long term relationship will almost never be at the same level.
It ebbs and flows.
For some reason this reminds me of my dear old grandparents.
A very long time ago my elderly but sprightly grandfather went out into the garden to have a walk and look around and it was cold outside and my granny opened the curtain to watch him every pace of the way and tutted disapprovingly (with some considerable concern) that he wasn’t wearing a warm enough sweater or cardigan.
My great aunt Agatha (her sister) chortled at her younger sister (my granny) and said:
“Lena, I do believe you are falling in love with James all over again!”
It was funny and touching and possibly completely true. I daresay in their sixty year marriage they loved and resented each other in varying degrees at different times. But they were committed and ultimately adored each other without a doubt.
Dunno why your question brought this up but thanks for the memory!
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
I think it’s better if they love each other equally, otherwise it won’t last.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
The benefactor is the person who is loved the most. My ex-husband “loved me more” and when I look back on it I think he was really delusional. He loved his idea of me and not me. When I have “loved” more in a relationship I’ve always been let down. Ideally, you should try to find someone who complements you and vice versa – so much so that you don’t have to sit around trying to figure out who loves more.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
The woman needs to love the man more because then she’ll put some effort into not being a nagging shrew.
If he loves her more, she’ll just walk all over him because he’ll bend to her every crazy whim. He wont be able to effectively ignore her nagging and he’ll eventually go insane.
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Wow, so many people side stepped the question. You even stated that “Given this case” ect…
I bet that even in most of today’s successful couples, one person does lover the other more.
Anyway, good luck getting many answers to your actual question. I know the feeling.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
No, i think in a relationship you should be equal in how much you love one another, but maybe it’s just how they display their love that makes them seem out of balance.
March 27th, 2010 at 10:25 am
Who is this “other” you speak of, and what does s/he have to do with their relationship–see this is why I don’t go in for threesomes.